The Shit Women Have to Deal With That Men Don’t

Let’s be honest—there are things women carry daily that most men never have to think about.

Not because we’re weaker. Not because we’re dramatic, but because we’ve been trained to manage everyone’s emotional reactions at the cost of our own peace.

The Ego Landmine

“Women who innately know—you don’t say that, you don’t do that. And we just like… we don’t do those things because men cannot handle it.” -Starlite The Oracle

Do you know how many times we swallow our truth to avoid backlash? Do you know how often we edit our expression because he might get insecure?

“You just no—you can’t. You could never do it to a man. But a woman has to take it all the time.”

We know not to check out another man in front of our partner. Why? Because it could be dangerous. Men get possessive. Threatened. Explosive. So we adapt. We shrink. We take the emotional hit so they don’t have to feel theirs.

And that’s just Tuesday.

Performative Masculinity & Emotional Incompetence

There’s a pattern we’re sick of: Men wanting the privileges of being “the leader” without doing what it takes to lead.

“You want me to take your advice when you don’t even lead your own life. You have poor financial decision-making skills. You lie. You make everybody your fucking master because you lie to them. You try to save face. You have insecurity, worth issues. But I’m supposed to let you lead my life?”

Nah. We’re not doing that anymore.

If you want to lead someone, lead yourself first.

Traditional Expectations. Modern Laziness.

“There are more women now that have financially carried men than ever before.”

And still, what’s expected of us?

“Still expected to be all-nurturing, all-domestic.”

So let me get this straight. We bring in the money, pay the bills, cook, clean, raise the kids……and we’re still expected to “submit” to a man who has zero plan?

“They’re not traditional men, but they still expect women to be traditional—on top of being modern.” -Vesuvius The Dreamweaver

This isn’t partnership. It’s imbalance in disguise.

The Soul-Selling Tradeoff

We get why some women stay.

“I’m not going to deny that… it is hard to live a life poor.”

But the price?

“I think it’s even harder… to live a life with a soulless relationship where you don’t ever get to express yourself emotionally, spiritually. That would be a kind of death. Like—I sold my soul for fucking stability. For financial stability. I don’t know how women do it.”

And that’s the point.

We weren’t born to choose between safety and soul.

The Callout: Stop Asking for Devotion You Haven’t Earned

“The minute you become admirable, I will admire you.”

Because here’s the truth: Women are tired of pretending. Tired of handing out respect to men who haven’t earned it. Tired of managing their ego just to keep the peace.

“A man has to be admired. Women have to be adored.”

But you don’t get admiration just for existing.

You get it when you become someone worth looking up to—not just someone demanding to be obeyed.

Final Word: We Are Done Shrinking

“I think sometimes I forget, even for myself, how much I have to put up with…that men don’t have to put up with as a woman.”

Women—your softness is sacred, but it was never meant to be weaponized against you.

If your truth makes someone uncomfortable, let it.

If your radiance threatens someone’s ego, let it.

This is your permission slip to stop shrinking, stop explaining, and stop waiting for a man to become who you wish he was.

Say yes to your own power first.

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